70 million asexuals: a sign of social "sex crisis"?
According to media reports, Canadian scholar Professor Anthony Bogelt found that there are currently about 70 million asexual people in the world, accounting for 1% of the world's total population. The abbreviation of asexuality is "xal" and "al". These three letters are selected from the complete English words of asexuality. Asexuality refers to people who do not have sexual orientation, that is, a tendency that does not show sexual orientation for any gender of men or women. However, whether asexuality is a sexual orientation is still controversial. Holds a relatively indifferent attitude towards both men and women, will not be interested in either side, but will have some more favors for a certain gender because of their gender or daily experience. It is difficult for asexual people to have a lot of good feelings for people, and there is not much disgust.
"Asexuality" is the "fourth sex" after heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality. Although this definition is still controversial, the increasingly large "sexuality" group in the world has to attract people's attention. . We don't know what causes the tendency of "sexlessness"? One argument is that the DNA arrangement is wrong, just like homosexuality; another argument is that people who have never had sex or have been cold for a long time, plus more and more people are happy to enjoy single life. This led to the expansion of the “sexless” group.
For whatever reason, the appearance of the term "sexless" reminds me of a famous philosopher: Plato. Plato believes: "When the mind rejects the flesh and yearns for the truth, then the thought is the best. And when the soul is infected by the sin of the flesh, people's desire to pursue the truth will not be satisfied. When humans When there is no strong demand for carnal desire, the state of mind is peaceful. Carnal desire is the expression of the animal nature in human nature, which is the nature of every living body. Spiritual communication is beautiful and moral. "-This kind of love is also called" platonic love ".
"Plato-style love" is pure love that truly rejects sensuality, pursues spiritual communication, and reason. If according to this statement, then "sexual lovers" are true Platonic love, because they not only do not need to suppress the lust deliberately, but they do not really need physical communication, there is no sex, maybe they will pay more attention to spiritual communication and reality Run-in in life. But this is only the assumption of the author as a heterosexual. The truth of reality may be only 70 million or more "sexless".
But the topic of asexuality reminds me of another phenomenon: asexual marriage. According to statistics, one-third of marriages in China are currently asexual marriages, and more than 60% of the divorced people are caused by inharmonious sexual life in marriage. At the same time, asexual marriage is also the main form of cold violence in the family. There are many reasons for asexual marriage. The relationship between the couple is not good, the spouse is cold, the marriage is off-site, and a third party is involved. Of course, there are "exual couples" among them.
