Will the length of the erection affect women's pleasure?
I have been masturbating for a while, and I have fully explored and understood myself and my various sexual reactions. I know that I do not have the following problems:
· I did not feel unconfident, scared, nor did I feel any shortcomings
· I will not have unrealistic ideas about what is "normal" sex because of watching pornography
· I don’t think that only vaginal sex is "real" sex
· I don’t agree to use a person’s erection lasting ability to judge whether a person is good and how "man" he is
At the same time, I also know that a longer erection will increase the pleasure that my future lover and I have in sex. I read a lot of information about sexual skills on the Internet, but I know that many people want to make a lot of money by persuading others to believe in their so-called magical solutions, so I still ask you, what method is effective. Thank you!
expert Heather Corinna answered like this:
A serious misunderstanding expressed in your letter is that the length of a man’s erection will affect the sexual pleasure of your partner (or to some extent, yourself).
I can’t say that your future lover will definitely not like penis penetration sex, it’s just possible. Moreover, the idea that penis size and erection time are crucial to women’s sexual pleasure is not in line with the actual situation of most women, but many men "think" that women value them very much.
First, let us understand the basic physiological structure of women. In female sex organs, the vagina is not the most sensitive part, absolutely not. The most sensitive part is the clitoris-including the internal and external parts. Most of the vagina has no sensory nerve endings at all. In the vagina, only the G-spot (approximately 2.5 cm above the inner wall of the vaginal opening) has a large number of sensory nerve endings, and it is easier to stimulate the G-spot with fingers than with the penis.
For some women, vaginal intercourse is really satisfying, because when a woman is fully awakened (usually first stimulated by other forms of sexual activity), her entire genitals are congested-so the entire genitals will be more sensitive. However, for most women, only vaginal intercourse (and no other sexual behaviors, such as rubbing the clitoris), will not bring about orgasm, or even excite her. Of course, some women may still enjoy pure vaginal intercourse, but it is often because they are happy to see their lovers having fun.
In other words, allowing women to enjoy sexual pleasure has nothing to do with men’s erection and its duration.
If you want to be a good sex partner, you can experience a high degree of sexual pleasure and let your lovers enjoy the same pleasure, you need to possess other more important qualities. For example, have an open mind, be a serious listener and be able to respond to a lover; be imaginative and original; be spontaneous; have a sense of humor, and put yourself and your lover's entire body-including thought- -All regarded as sexy parts. In other words, if you want to enjoy sex well, you shouldn't care about your penis too much, but improve your interpersonal communication skills. Once you have mastered all these techniques, you will naturally understand how to use your hands, mouth, or penis, everything will come naturally.
We know that you want to make your erections last longer. For many men, this is an important body image and male characteristic. However, maybe you should understand women's thinking better. Many women say that men's staying power is not that attractive-some men boast that they can last for an hour or two, thinking that they will be favored by women. In fact, women think that is unappetizing. One thing you should understand is that only a few women enjoy pure vaginal intercourse—and they certainly don’t appreciate vaginal intercourse for too long.
The excessive worry about male endurance is mainly due to the belief that many men will ejaculate for a long time. Of course, sometimes, a man can have an erection for 15 minutes, 30 minutes or even an hour during vaginal intercourse. But 75% of men reach an orgasm within 2 minutes after starting vaginal sex. That's right, 75%. In other words, it is normal for men to maintain an erection for only a few minutes during vaginal sex.
We understand that this may seem like a short time, but in fact, if you enjoy sex, the time will appear to be long, and a few minutes will feel like hours. If you still want to be longer, the best way is to change your sexual activity-when you feel about to ejaculate, change your posture to make the penis less irritated-or slow down and slow down the stimulation.
There are also some men who find that if they masturbate first and then have sex with their partners, their endurance will increase. Some men have also found that using certain appliances to tighten the root of the penis, such as the opening of a condom or a penis ring designed for this purpose, will also work. Perhaps the most effective way is to overcome one's anxiety about sexual performance and erection. Anxiety can affect the performance of the penis-the more you worry about endurance, the shorter the erection time. So, try to relax and understand that there is no problem regardless of the length of the erection. An erection is great, but even better is to enjoy the time of being intimate with your partner. Do whatever you want, enjoy yourself and enjoy your companions, which may make your erections last longer. You will not hear such advice on TV, magazines, or emails. What's the reason? Because these methods cannot make people rich. However, we can tell you with certainty that if what is not a problem is called a problem, it must be related to money, not facts.
If you haven't started sex yet, what is said here may be too abstract now. But once you have a partner, the meaning becomes clear. At the same time, don't let wrong ideas and other people's anxiety affect your judgment-no matter what, this is a good suggestion.
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