With so many inflatable dolls, do we still need love?
A few days ago, the New York Times published a report on the marital status of Chinese people. Reports say fewer Chinese are choosing to marry. Last year, 12 million Chinese couples registered for marriage, and that number has fallen for the second year in a row. In line with this trend, the number of divorced couples reached 3.8 million last year, more than double the number 10 years ago.
Not long ago, Tencent's "Facts" column did a large-scale social survey on the current status of Chinese marriage and love. The survey showed that out of about 50,000 respondents, almost 70% of married people regret getting married, and women regret more than men. Another survey conducted by the China Youth Daily Social Survey Center and the Questionnaire Network showed that 61.2% of the respondents stated that they had a tendency to "terrorist marriage".
Look at a new set of data from neighboring Japan. A survey conducted by the National Institute of Social Security and Population Research found that among unmarried men aged 18-34 in Japan, about 69.8% of men were not associated with women, and 59.1% of women were increased by about 10% from five years ago. In addition, 42% of men and 44.2% of women said they have no sexual experience, and this proportion has also increased.
All in all, more and more young people are unwilling to get married, have no contacts, and have no sexual experience. Many people analyze this issue from a sociological perspective, such as an aging population and increased marriage pressure; women have a high level of education and no longer regard marriage as the only way to gain a sense of security; and they have increased their awareness of independence and are unwilling Bound, etc. However, few people pay attention to a literary angle. For example, is there a possibility that young people no longer need love and marriage?
Long live love
The marriage scenes often appear in TV series, the hero will say such a marriage vow:
Are you willing to marry xxx as a wife, love her, comfort her, respect her, protect him, just as you love yourself. Whether she is sick or healthy, rich or poor, stay true to her until she leaves the world?
In such an oath, marriage is together because of love, and this love is eternal and consistent, just like the name of a movie by Cai Mingliang, Long Live Love.
But what if love is impossible? You know, Cai Mingliang's movie name is actually an irony. The film focuses on three fringe figures in Taipei, a cinerary salesman, a stall hawker, and a sales lady. The salesman and hawker sneaked into an apartment for sale at night and lived there. The temporary owner of the apartment was a sales lady. The hawker and the sales lady had several relationships, but they all knew that it was only a temporary comfort to the body; the salesman secretly fell in love with the hawker, but he never dared to confess ... just like Tian Song Zhen sang, "I Love you, you love her, she loves her, she loves him, you love me, i love him, he loves him, he loves her; hey? How in this world, no one loves; how in this world, everyone does not Happiness; in this world, everyone loves others and does not love himself. "
In Hashiguchi Ryosuke's new work, Lovers, Ryosuke Hashiguchi seems to have inherited Cai Mingliang. "Lovers" is also an irony. The three-story story in the movie, the three marginal heroes, are in the middle and lower levels of the society, and they are damaged, ignored, discriminated, and misunderstood. Their lovers are missing, or lost forever, or their souls have never come near, or they have become strangers due to misunderstanding.
All this seems to be saying: Love is not alive, lovers cannot be trusted, and loneliness is eternal.
Why is a person lonely? Some time ago, the hot Japanese drama "Love of the Sage" had a line in the sentence "Yes, each of us is a lonely individual, and we cannot be each other. You, me, your husband, my father." This As Feng Zhi, a modern Chinese poet, said, everyone comes to the world like the trees side by side in the garden. The branches and leaves may echo, but their roots are irrelevant. Because everyone is an independent individual, we never seem to be able to share the pain of others. Everyone is in the tower of Babel, talking and communicating with each other. Paradoxically, soulmate is out of reach. At this time, loneliness entered the real life from the philosophical category and became a real and lingering existence.
The increasingly intense and distinct lonely experience of modern people is also a disease of civilization. The emphasis on individualism in socio-cultural and economic development models has exacerbated people's isolation. In the city's concrete forest, high-rises occupy the city, and the home rises into the sky to become a house number. The contact between people has been lost. The society has the characteristics of a "social society." Of my friends, my family is alienated, I have no regular job, and I have little contact with my family. I am alienated and indifferent. Otaku appeared in large numbers.
At this time, is it true that love cannot cross the essence of loneliness, or is loneliness devouring love?
